Real Talk

It has become a norm to hear women say they cant get along with other women as women tend to be dramatic and would rather prefer the company of males.Do you fall in this category of women? well…shame on you. But then again should I blame you or what history has taught women.

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For centuries,women were pronounced incapable of “true” friendship. Victorians celebrated romantic friendships between women, but also depicted them as superficial passions that simply prepared women for marriage.

It is alleged this could even be biological – a drive left over from a period when securing male support was necessary to female survival.

There’s a strange misconception that success is only for you and if your girlfriend takes it well now there goes your opportunity?  Every single human is fighting their own battle, male or female no matter how many desirable traits they might have. Just because your girl friend happens to own a company, car and find a husband before you does not entail that she married the last single guy in the world, or she bought the last car in the market and she certainly wont be the only entrepreneur in the country so what is this need for fierce competition and hatred amongst women?

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I envy the way guys tend to be considered with the realest friendships when I  know this is just a myth that has gone on for too long. Women love women, genuinely. If people don’t like you its because you have traits that they don’t agree with. Like you talk too much or you dont smell nice. Things that if you found true friends they would tell you to improve on those traits.Not based on your gender.

Whether in their professional or personal lives, it is true that women do not always treat other women well. But the same can be said for men.We could just as easily find evidence that all men hate each other – for example, by pointing out that the majority of violent crime is by men against other men.

Yet centuries of being told women are each others worst enemies has resulted in confirmation bias. We are programmed to identify evidence that supports the pre-existing hypothesis.And only see situations of women being dramatic.

As women lets raise above all this and genuinely appreciate each other. Stop seeing other women as competition. Another females beauty is not a measure of your self worth.

Well, it seems to me that the best relationships – the ones that last – are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is… suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with.”
Gillian Anderson.

Tag you real girlfriends.

 

 

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