Common mistakes we tend to make when dating as ladies is…..drum rolls please, assumption! If you are dating him, you assume you have the same intentions just because you are on a certain level in your life and expect the same in”your relationship”.
If you see a probable future with someone, its best if you make sure your on the same level by asking the appropriate questions. Like are we in a relationship first? (You know its good to be sure with all the friends with benefits, side niggas and side chic going round) Are you dating anyone else? Do you see a future with me? Don’t just start naming your first-born just yet before you learn to communicate with him. He might not be even there yet or never be there.
And guys if you take a girl out on the first date, and you realize there is nothing there, just say so. You don’t need to take me for a second and third date acting like a gentleman and eventually end up wasting my time. This is what leads to unnecessary heart breaks.
Let’s not leave room for assumptions, games and confusion it’s just unnecessary drama that honestly I don’t think any of us need in our lives. Lets start our week with zero drama.
Published by Faith Irungu (Fae)
I know what you’re thinking. Why would you ask a twenty-something for advice on women? Good question. Well I’m sure you’d trust an older, wiser, 75-year-old woman: my grandma. And she always says, “Ask Fae” (That’s me.) So maybe you should.
I’m not exactly who you’d expect to turn to, considering I am the youngest in my family, but never underestimate the youngest. They’re always watching…
Observing my older siblings, friends, and even parents make decisions everyday was like watching a lot of Reality TV – not because their behavior was so over-dramatic or ridiculous, but because I watched others’ lives play out before mine even really began. I watched my brother bravely enter high school, and my four sisters make their choices on love and life. (yes we are a big family). I watched my parents build a successful business and my brother grow into a successful enterpreneur. And I as I watch, I have learnt a lot on parenthood not because I have children but I have watched my sisters as they raise my ten nieces and nephews.
As I said, a lot was happening to everyone around me before my life even began. I took in how they made decisions and saw it as an opportunity for me to “pick and choose” what decisions I would later make (or not make). I guess learning from others and my successes and mistakes made me into a reliable source for my family and friends – which is why my grandma has always said “Ask Fae”.
So now I’m almost 26 and I seem to be the one everyone keeps turning to for advice. I certainly don’t have all the answers, but the lessons I’ve learned (from others’ experiences as well as my own) seem to have taught me well. So ask away, my friends. I may be young, but I am also wise – according to grandma – and she’s pretty damn smart.
So ladies and gents send me your questions at wambufae@gmail.com with your name and question.lets talk.
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Great word’s of wisdom 👏👏👏
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👍👍true
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I agree. Communication is key in every kind of human relationship. Otherwise a lot of time is wasted.
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